I am sure you are very familiar with this scenario:
Networking event- many people, suits, “nice to meet you”, business card, big laughs, “Hi I am John”, buffet, “Hello”, drink, “Do you have a pen?” Business card, restroom, buffet again, smiling, business cards…
The next day you look at your new well-designed collection of business cards and you are still a little confused….
Networking events can be overwhelming and full on, but since you came there for a reason, then you are the one who needs to make sense to the disorder.
I would like to share a personal story with you about my early days, when I didn’t know how to network that well:
Many years ago, when I started my career, I often found myself a little stressed when networking with others. I was insecure, yet wanted others to “discover me”. I was nervous and somewhat embarrassed.
This mental state of mind made me talk too much and not really think about what I was saying… and this is where it can get a little “dangerous”.
When I met people for the first time, I often said things that portrayed me as a different person than who I really am…. It was hard to form the business relationships I wanted with them, as these were the people I felt most nervous with.
2014 is here and this is the time to give thanks and remember all those amazing people surrounding us. The people that were here for us in the last year and those we want to strengthen our connection with in the new year.
You see, research shows that being grateful grounds us and enable us to celebrate the present and notice the good and positive things in our lives. Once we realise that we feel good and magnify the goodness we spread out! It also makes s treat those people we appreciate better and strengthens these relationships.
In this article we will focus on the groups of people that we can be grateful for:
1) Close family
3) Potential clients and mentors
4) Yourself! (more…)
Do you remember the last time you went on a kayak or a little boat?
You sat in it, by yourself or with another partner; you took the oar in your hands, and started rowing.
You dipped its right side in the water and pushed it back, and then you dipped the left side in the water and pushed harder, right, left, right, left, and so on.
Suddenly you started moving ahead! The safe land was getting farther and farther away from you as you kept on rowing.
When you looked straight ahead, all you saw was blue water and blue sky.
No clear path, no certainty that the water will stay still and calm and the wind won’t start blowing harder and bring a storm with it.
Mr. Ego lives in each and every one of us. He is most likely to show up when there is a disagreement with someone else, or when we are being criticised or disrespected by others and similar incidents. Then, Mr. Ego comes and shows who is ‘the boss’- who is right, who is stronger, who is smarter and who knows better!
Negative ego can destroy relationships, terminate deals and generally delay one’s personal and professional growth. This negative ego creates a separation between one person and the rest of the world.
There is a way to conquer the ego and I will reveal how:
1) Awareness- Be aware of yourself and notice when your ego shows up.
2) Think about it- Hold your horses and think through the facts again before you say something
3) Respond wisely-Answer in a way that connects you and doesn’t set you apart.
I am sure you will find the next question familiar:
“Hi, I’m Johnny, we met at the entrepreneurs’ convention last night.
Do you remember me?”
I can almost guarantee that either you have asked this question or been asked it in the past.
There are so many places to network out there that can bring lots of opportunities your way!
When you network with a new person, one of your goals is to stay memorable and stand out from the rest! (Click to Tweet It!)